Comments on: How do you define success?! http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/18/how-do-you-define-success/ I'm a real person... Seriously... Fri, 18 Dec 2009 16:16:10 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Scott Murrell http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/18/how-do-you-define-success/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Scott Murrell Fri, 18 Dec 2009 16:16:10 +0000 http://www.jeffcross.me/?p=386#comment-98 Jeff.. I don't know the circumstances that led to the way to perceive yourself but I do know that you aren't any different from most of us. We all screw up and we all work miracles, I guess if we can achieve some kind of parity between the two that's a great goal. You have a great eye for the shot, a lot of us don't so be proud of the gifts you have and the things you have to work on don't regret just change. Scott Jeff.. I don’t know the circumstances that led to the way to perceive yourself but I do know that you aren’t any different from most of us. We all screw up and we all work miracles, I guess if we can achieve some kind of parity between the two that’s a great goal. You have a great eye for the shot, a lot of us don’t so be proud of the gifts you have and the things you have to work on don’t regret just change.
Scott

]]> By: Jeff Cross http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/18/how-do-you-define-success/comment-page-1/#comment-86 Jeff Cross Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:26:52 +0000 http://www.jeffcross.me/?p=386#comment-86 @Ainsley: Spot on, man! But, the forgiving yourself thing was in <a href="http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/16/im-being-repurposed/'" rel="nofollow">this post</a> and very true! I am having to walk in self-forgiveness. It's something that I have struggled with for a long time, I'm learning. It hasn't been easy... Hell, seeing <em>me the past <em>55'ish</em> days hasn;t been easy... But, it's necessary... And, my journey to a complete "healing", which equates to a "complete me", isn't done yet. Hence the reason I am taking a timeout from <em>everything</em> in my life: side projects (like photography, programming, web design), relationships, and basically anything that has either landed me here or added to the reason I have lost focus. I am on a journey like no other... Maybe I should stop now... This could be good post material! ;) Jeff @Ainsley: Spot on, man! But, the forgiving yourself thing was in this post and very true!

I am having to walk in self-forgiveness. It’s something that I have struggled with for a long time, I’m learning. It hasn’t been easy… Hell, seeing me the past 55′ish days hasn;t been easy… But, it’s necessary…

And, my journey to a complete “healing”, which equates to a “complete me”, isn’t done yet. Hence the reason I am taking a timeout from everything in my life: side projects (like photography, programming, web design), relationships, and basically anything that has either landed me here or added to the reason I have lost focus.

I am on a journey like no other… Maybe I should stop now… This could be good post material! ;)

Jeff

]]> By: Ainsley Joseph http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/18/how-do-you-define-success/comment-page-1/#comment-85 Ainsley Joseph Sun, 25 Oct 2009 19:08:24 +0000 http://www.jeffcross.me/?p=386#comment-85 First off, you are a gifted and talented photographer...(thanks for the favorite on flickr too, I appreciate that) I just wanna say buddy, forgive but don't forget, forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made, forgive yourself for hurting the people you held close to your heart, forgive yourself for not realizing the true meaning of success, or the difference between a house and a home...but never forget...I think until you truly forgive yourself, forgiveness from the ones that you love and hurt will start forgiving..No one can even come close to understanding what you are going through, all we can do is see and read your pain, and we can understand to a point. A broken heart will always be a broken heart, but "love" never underestimate love, when someone loves you, they love you forever as much hurt has been brought on them, there will always be a place in their heart for yuh....So stay strong my brother, one day at a time, one change at a time, one smile at a time, one true showing of "I'm sorry" at a time... Keep your head up Jeff. @Denise One wouldn't be a good parent if they thought having a kid is easy work... I have a 12 yr old from a previous marriage, I see every other day, I talk with him every day, and I have him every other wk end...There is nothing I wouldn't give to have him everyday, yes kids are hard work, you have to be a role model, you have to be unselfish with decisions you make in your life, but the rewards of hearing "I love you daddy", or watching them do what they do and put an honest smile on your face, is priceless.... Ainsley First off, you are a gifted and talented photographer…(thanks for the favorite on flickr too, I appreciate that)
I just wanna say buddy, forgive but don’t forget, forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made, forgive yourself for hurting the people you held close to your heart, forgive yourself for not realizing the true meaning of success, or the difference between a house and a home…but never forget…I think until you truly forgive yourself, forgiveness from the ones that you love and hurt will start forgiving..No one can even come close to understanding what you are going through, all we can do is see and read your pain, and we can understand to a point. A broken heart will always be a broken heart, but “love” never underestimate love, when someone loves you, they love you forever as much hurt has been brought on them, there will always be a place in their heart for yuh….So stay strong my brother, one day at a time, one change at a time, one smile at a time, one true showing of “I’m sorry” at a time…
Keep your head up Jeff.

@Denise
One wouldn’t be a good parent if they thought having a kid is easy work…
I have a 12 yr old from a previous marriage, I see every other day, I talk with him every day, and I have him every other wk end…There is nothing I wouldn’t give to have him everyday, yes kids are hard work, you have to be a role model, you have to be unselfish with decisions you make in your life, but the rewards of hearing “I love you daddy”, or watching them do what they do and put an honest smile on your face, is priceless….

Ainsley

]]> By: Josh http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/18/how-do-you-define-success/comment-page-1/#comment-83 Josh Fri, 23 Oct 2009 13:15:15 +0000 http://www.jeffcross.me/?p=386#comment-83 http://www.theonion.com/content/node/43212 http://www.theonion.com/content/node/43212

]]> By: Jeff Cross http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/18/how-do-you-define-success/comment-page-1/#comment-81 Jeff Cross Tue, 20 Oct 2009 15:44:26 +0000 http://www.jeffcross.me/?p=386#comment-81 Thanks for the comment, Jen. Things are difficult right now but I believe it is because I am being <em>stretched</em> and forced to face me for who I really have been, what needs to be addressed, and how I need to walk from this point forward. It's all good. It stings, but it appears to be all for the positive. I love you, too, sis! Thanks for the comment, Jen. Things are difficult right now but I believe it is because I am being stretched and forced to face me for who I really have been, what needs to be addressed, and how I need to walk from this point forward.

It’s all good. It stings, but it appears to be all for the positive.

I love you, too, sis!

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/18/how-do-you-define-success/comment-page-1/#comment-80 Jennifer Tue, 20 Oct 2009 14:57:03 +0000 http://www.jeffcross.me/?p=386#comment-80 A very thought-provoking post. I think you're right about the difference between what the world defines as "success" and true success. I'm sorry the process is difficult for you right now, but I'm glad you're making progress on the journey. I love you. A very thought-provoking post. I think you’re right about the difference between what the world defines as “success” and true success.

I’m sorry the process is difficult for you right now, but I’m glad you’re making progress on the journey.

I love you.

]]> By: Jeff Cross http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/18/how-do-you-define-success/comment-page-1/#comment-79 Jeff Cross Mon, 19 Oct 2009 00:34:18 +0000 http://www.jeffcross.me/?p=386#comment-79 Denise: If you have children, I respect your opinion. However, after spending a little over one year with a precious little boy, I'd rather have that job over any other. Being as though I can't have children (naturally or without a miracle from God with or without the assistance of science), every one with children should cherish every moment they have with them. The trying times and the joyful ones. Never take a child for granted... Denise: If you have children, I respect your opinion. However, after spending a little over one year with a precious little boy, I’d rather have that job over any other.

Being as though I can’t have children (naturally or without a miracle from God with or without the assistance of science), every one with children should cherish every moment they have with them. The trying times and the joyful ones.

Never take a child for granted…

]]> By: Denise http://www.jeffcross.me/2009/10/18/how-do-you-define-success/comment-page-1/#comment-78 Denise Sun, 18 Oct 2009 21:13:31 +0000 http://www.jeffcross.me/?p=386#comment-78 Loved your post! I think you will be fine as you're looking at the big picture. Kids aren't ezactly what you think either... harder than any job you ever tried... Loved your post! I think you will be fine as you’re looking at the big picture. Kids aren’t ezactly what you think either… harder than any job you ever tried…

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